Here in the twenty-first century, we still run headlong into some societal taboos from a few generations ago. Until shows like Sex and the City hit the mainstream, it was pretty much forbidden for women to really talk about getting aggressive in their sex life. Even the most take-charge guys get excited when their girls take control of the sex situation from time to time. If your bride is still living in the past, use any of these eight ideas to show her how fun life can be when she’s on top.
Go passive. Most women don’t initiate sex, simply because they’re used to men doing it. If you’re the subtle type, and you can handle a little sex drought, you can cut her off for a while to see what happens. Once she’s gagging for it, she’ll either rip your clothes off or she’ll flat out ask you what you’re up to.
Go aggressive. If you’d rather not wait so long for her to come around to the idea of asserting herself in the bedroom, try a different psychological approach. Take her to a nice restaurant for a romantic dinner. Before the dessert arrives, ask her to share one of her wildest sexual fantasies. Listen intently, echoing back what she says (you’ll need it for another tip!). When she asks you about your own fantasy, simply tell her that you’d love it if she surprised you by pouncing on you more often. You won’t have to ask twice.
Jump-start her sex drive. Perhaps things have become a little ho-hum in the bedroom, and late night repeats of Law and Order get her more excited than you do. Encourage her to select some unusual new positions, or surprise her with a spontaneous trip to a nearby hotel. You can even meet downtown for a “nooner” near her workplace. Just do something to break the pattern, and she’ll snap back to her aggressive self.